Throwing Downby Cypher Lx on 08/22/11
22 August 2011
I have come to the conclusion that my original goal of writing a blog every day was very unrealistic. I tried in the beginning, but other things frequently sidetracked me. Such is life. One would think that after graduating, I would have had more time on my hands, but it filled up with other activities, like concentrating on my third novel and various training situations involved with my full-time job. Soon I will be starting classes again. Fiction Writing and Ancient Egyptian Religion. If you're wondering why I would be taking a fiction writing class after writing two novels...there is always room for improvement. The other class? I've always had a passion for anything relating to Ancient Egypt, so taking the class is for enjoyment purposes for the most part. But now, I am finally taking the time to update my blog. So what am I going to write about this time?
Generally, I don't like conflict. Like everyone else, I like to live a relatively peaceful existence. However, there is something to be said about witnessing conflict as well as writing about it. When I write, I tend to create volatile situations that have the potential to either explode or at the very least cause tension among my characters. I see it as a way to get my aggressions out. When the situation is eventually resolved, either by diffusion or violence, I find it cathartic. Witnessing conflict gives me fodder for various storylines. Of course, I never use the real situation. I'll change the people involved and the source of the conflict. I see it as a study of human nature. As much as we say we want to live peacefully, we thrive on stirring the emotions of others.
I witness a lot of these conflicts on Facebook. It's particularly funny when it involves people that I not only know personally, but have known for many years. I know how their minds work because I have interacted with them on more occasions than I can count. Watching the conflict from the perimeter is entertaining. I often see people post the phrase, "I don't care who this offends..." and then write whatever it is that's on their mind. Of course, it offends someone. It always does. So a word war begins and the original poster becomes offended by the remarks made. Congratulations! Now everyone has been successfully offended. When you make an opening remark about not caring who you offend, you are essentially throwing down the gauntlet. Everyone who is as opinionated as yourself will join in the fray, whether to support you or contest you. If you don't want this, do not preface your post with such an antagonizing statement. The only conclusion I can come to is that if you do this, you secretly crave instigating an argument. Maybe this isn't the case for all people. But if you have such strong beliefs that you feel you must advertise them on a public forum, be prepared for the backlash. I have purposely distanced myself from certain people (including family) with regards to anything involving religious or political discussion. These particular people don't want to hear anything but their own opinion, so God forbid if you disagree with them. They will launch an all out attack. I'm all for an educated and well-worded debate that allows for both people to voice their beliefs. But when one or both of the participants is so close-minded that they have to sling insults, nothing is gained except hurt feelings.
That's the difference between what I witness and what I write. If you properly flesh out a conflict and a resolution (regardless of the outcome), there is always something to be learned from it. What the reader takes from it is up to them. People utilize their own schemas to interpret what they read. So, sometimes they won't see what you intend, or find something that you hadn't even thought of. The question is, how effective is a writer if they only use their own schema? I study the conflicts I see and try to remain objective. Yes, I have my own beliefs. But to look at something from all sides and all points of view and to actually learn something from it is more valuable than putting someone down for not conforming to your standards. Besides, how boring would it be if I only wrote one point of view?